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In posting order, I present to you, the Sage of Dennis.

Do you miss me?
I know who she is, and I am going to tell her.
get your shit and get out of my house
get the F out of my apartment! I gave you three chances to come clean. Stop calling me to feel me out. GET OUT! I know it all.
I got even yesterday at lunch and have a hickie to prove it
Did you think I wouldn't find out? An eye for an eye..all's fair my marine


What a fantastic story. I think I teared up there at the end.

It finally came! Thanks, Vince!

tinyhand surprised me with my very own set of Made in Germany ShamWow! Because the Germans make good stuff.

Its a good thing, too. There are puddles and soda spills all over the house that we've just been stepping over for the past year, wondering how we were going to clean them up.

Now we know. Yes, We Can!

Controversy ahead ...

Ah, racism. Is there anything it can't do?


Over in debunkingwhite, there is a link to an article in which a white woman waxes poetic about black men. Boy, do they get upset. It makes me feel like I'm missing something. Why should I care about/judge a woman who likes black guys? Change the words "Black guy" with "Tall guy" or "Bald Guy" or "Short guy" or whatever "type" and you have pretty much the same article (admittedly not the comments about black skin, but that was only one or two lines). I am not outraged, nor do I find her creepy, as some commenters do, nor do I care. I've known women/men like her, and never really cared.


In sex_and_race there is a satirical post about defending racism.

In coffeeandink is a post, that the defending racism post was derivative of, about shutting down discussions of racism.

Both of these posts are funny, but they use such circular logic that they basically become parodies of themselves by the time they are done. And while some of the points they make are actually decent, if one took them seriously, in the way of the best satires, there really would be nothing to talk about and no way to talk about it.


Finally, in this blog, there is an Open Letter to Elizabeth Bear that basically calls matociquala as close to a racist as one can be without actually being called a racist. (Helpful hint: racism is like pregnancy, you either are or you aren't. According to these blogs, if you are white, you are.) What's nice about this blog is that it calls Bear a straight white woman. I'll let you figure that one out.


I have a few huge problems with the current state of race relations. One position which gets me some heat is my rejection of white privilege. I think that is simply an outward expression of white guilt, which POC think we should all have, and which I do not. I make no apologies for being born who I am, and I reject the idea that I get something special because of the color of my skin. I also understand that, by way of the circular logic applied to pretty much any conversation of racism that means I have white privilege and am using to deny having it. Its no win.

Another issue I have is the idea that the offended party in an exchange has no responsibility to the offending party. POC largely state that it is not their responsibility to tell you why you are racist, and that it is white people's job to find out. While I understand that some white people (or really, people in general are not really listening when they ask why someone is offended, or completely deny what they did after the fact; the truth is that telling white people to go figure it out is disingenuous. When they look for reasons they are being accused of racism, they can find as many different reasons as there are opinions on what racism really is. They could find the wrong reasons. They could misunderstand the reasons. And once they think they have it right, and they go back doing it wrong, then they are called racist again and they think they just can't win because they tried and are still wrong. (Cue the "Oh, poor white people, now you know what it's like to be black" here. BTW, that's racist.) All this attitude does is further the institutional racism POC are trying to fight.

Finally, I have a problem with white people saying "Racism is dead" now that we have a black President. While it is true that shouts of racism are now a bit harder to defend, there are still plenty of pervasive actual examples of racism in Real Life that all of us content with every day, of every color, culture, and background. It is NOT a "White on Black" problem, as many people want to think, it is a "Problem" problem that needs to be addressed truthfully where it exists.

Commence the anger.

Never gonna ...

VH1 Classic just RickRolled America!

Nice one, VH1!

Books, books, and more books.

I enjoyed seeing what books I read last year so much, that I decided to list the ones I read this year. This is not just because I feel my opinion is so all fired important - I mean it is, but not JUST because of that - but also so I can keep track of my conquests. I've gotten to a point where I've read so many books, sometimes I can't remember if I've read one or not. So, I will be listing my reads.



1) Lords of Chaos by Michael Moynihan and Didrik Soderland
2) Passage to Dawn by R.A. Salvatore
3) Blood Meridian by Cormac McCarthy
4) The Hollow Chocolate Bunnies of the Apocalypse by Robert Rankin
5) Act of Treason by Vince Flynn
6) Contest by Matthew Reilly
7) Rain Storm by Barry Eisler
8) Killing Rain by Barry Eisler
9) The Last Assassin by Barry Eisler
10) The Spiderwick Chronicals 1-5 by Holly Black and Tony DiTerlizzi
11) Eternity Road by Jack McDevitt
12) The Thirteenth Tale by Diane Setterfield
13) The Terror by Dan Simmons
14) Punk Rock Dad by Jim Lindberg
15) Extremes by Kristine Kathryn Rusch
16) Consequences by Kristine Kathryn Rusch
17) Buried Deep by Kristine Kathryn Rusch
18) Paloma by Kristine Kathryn Rusch
19) Recovery Man by Kristine Kathryn Rusch
20) Requiem for an Assassin by Barry Eisler
21) The Digital Plague by Jeff Sommers
22) The Sword-Edged Blond by Alex Bledsoe
23) Crystal Rain by Tobias Buckell
24) Acacia by David Anthony Durham
25) Th1rte3n by Richard K. Morgan
26) Crooked Little Vein by Warren Ellis
27) Eastern Standard Tribe by Cory Doctorow
28) Ragamuffin by Tobias Buckell
29) Dark Hollowby Brian Keene
30) Grave Secrets by Kathy Reichs
31) Monday Mourning by Kathy Reichs
32) When The Bough Breaks by Jonathan Kellerman
33) The Keep by F. Paul Wilson
34) The Lost Fleet: Dauntless by Jack Campbell
35) The Lost Fleet: Fearless by Jack Campbell
36) The Lost Fleet: Courageous by Jack Campbell
37) The Lost Fleet: Valiant by Jack Campbell
38) The Rising by Brian Keene
39) The Book of Lists: Horror compiled by Amy Wallace, Del Howison, and Scott Bradley

End of an era

The Best Moments are the Unintended Ones

Boo is playing with Grandma on the floor, and they are reading an alphabet book.

They just looked at a picture of "D" and one of the words is "Dad".

Boo looked up at me, smiled, and said "Dadadadadadadad".

It is the very first time she has looked at me with the understanding that, not only is that a fun sound to make, it also refers to me.

Pardon me, I think there is something in my eye.